Olden days women were judged by the amount of children they bore to their husbands.

More children they bore, more they were considered worthy.

We remember Hannah (1 Samuel 1:15), who had an extremely loving husband, Elkanah ( she was fortunate to have such a loving man by her side who loved her so much), but her barrenness troubled her more and her sorrowful sprit was sapping her of all her joy.

Oh yes! Looks mattered too. Remember Leah? Genesis 29: 17, says, Leah was older daughter of Laban. Her eyes were weak and dull, but the younger daughter of Laban, Rachel was attractive, hence finding love ( Jacob loved Rachel and worked for 7 years for Laban, his uncle) was easy for her.

Times have changed now. Women are juggling between work , home, handling kids and much more. Now our worthiness is no more dependent on our child bearing capacities. In many cases women decide not to procreate …..a conscious decision . Our worth goes way beyond. We are educated, self dependent, wise, smart women of today.

We have evolved, no doubt.

Today women are holding important positions, starting from being first citizens of a country to top notch professionals, entrepreneurs, creative artistes , comfortable housewives or mothers of very successful citizens of country, and much more. We expect much more from life than simply living mundane lives. Choice is ours, where we want to excel.

But,…..somehow , at the back of our minds (no matter how successful we are in life), we still find ourselves hung on a very simple thing in life……”Love”.

We find pretty successful pinup girls, making money more than successful business men, but going through depressions. Why?

We also find rich comfortable housewives still unhappy and wanting to do more, and expecting more from life. What is it they are looking for? Having all the comforts of life isn’t making them too comfortable emotionally as such. They are still confused. What could be the reason?

Man is a social animal. So basically he/she needs love. Women being the emotional lot, need more love than men, whereas men probably need more of respect than love.

When a woman doesn’t get enough love, her behaviour and lifestyle would reflect low self esteem, disrespectful, loud and brash and escapist behaviour. She feels rejected, humiliated and unloved.

Problem is, because of modernisation, we are going far away from God and closer to our smart phones and other high end gadgets. Today’s women are more into ‘keeping up with the Joneses ‘ than paying more attention to what God expects them to be, or even consider why God created them in the first place?. Less (at times none at all) time is spent on word of God and much more time goes on socialising and superficial things. Accumulation of more and more wealth, and kitties and parties keep them busy. But the thought of a prayer meeting gets them too busy for attending it.
When God created a woman (out of a man), He thought of a suitable, perfect ‘helper’ for man. She was supposed to be the ‘right companion’ for the man. (Genesis 2:21-22)

Genesis 3:6 says, “when the woman ‘saw’ (she used her own eyes and brain, when she was supposed to follow God’s instructions and simply be obedient in following God’s commands ), the tree was good (suitable and pleasant, for food and that it was delightful to look at, and a tree to be desired in order to make one wise (it was her misconception which she believed to be correct), she took of its fruit and ate, and she gave some also to her husband, and he ate. (not only she disobeyed God but made her man to disobey too). So it was Adam’s fall, partially because of Eve ( Adam could have stood his ground and refused to eat the fruit and simply obey God, because he was a witness to God’s creativity and goodness and also kindness of considering making a helper for Adam.

Today in a cut throat competitive world, it’s difficult to come to any conclusion whether a woman made a man fall or a man reason for the fall of a woman (in the eyes of God). But either ways, fall is a fall. And consequences are there too!

Leviticus 20:23-26, “Moreover you shall not follow the customs of the nations which I drive out before you, for they did all these things, and therefore I have abhorred them.”

2 Corinthians, come out from their midst and be separate, says the Lord and do not touch what is unclean, and I will welcome you“.

(Shash Grewal(Shashwati) is a philanthropist and a social worker, who tries to reach out to hurting hearts with scriptural blessings and kindness.)

Today’s women aren’t giving first priority to God, Their lives are filled with emptiness and absence of love. Consequently , they are incapable of guiding their children ‘the fear of the Lord’. Children grow up in a family which believes more in superficial things than God. Hence grow up as replicas of their parents. Sound teaching and guidance are absent and fear of the Lord is missing.

Isaiah 9:16, “For those who guide this people are leading them astray. And those who are guided by them are brought to confusion. “

The most important one, answered Jesus, ‘is this, ‘Hear O Israel, The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. (Mark 12:29-31).

Now question is, how a woman of God should be? Proverbs 31 explains it very beautifully.

“A capable, intelligent and virtuous woman (since her spiritual life is very strong and she puts all her heart trusting in her God and obeying His commands and guides her family in godly principles), far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls (Proverbs 12:4, 18:22, 19;14). Heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of (honest) gain or need of (dishonest) spoil. “

(Shash Grewal (Shashwati) is a “Scriptural Motivational Writer, who explain’s life’s, common principles, in a very lucid manner so that the younger generation can relate to the solutions, she offers through her writing, to all the problems they face on a daily basis.)

Proverbs 31:30, “ Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain ( because it is not lasting), but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!”

Proverbs 31:26-28, “ she opens her mouth in skilful and godly wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness (giving counsel and instruction). Her children rise up and call her blessed and her husband boasts of and praises her.” ( when a woman gives God first place in her life, God ensures, she is respected by all, loved by all and she is filled with wisdom, supplied by God) .

Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find? The righteous lead blameless lives, blessed are their children after them (Proverbs 20:6-7)

Do everything in love” 1 Corinthians 16:14

God is an epitome of love. God is faithful, loving, and generous. He showers His grace upon deserving and undeserving equally. He loves you, wants you, and has a wonderful plan for your life. Do you believe?

Beauty of putting all your trust in God is, you will never live a meaningless life, neither will you ever complain about a loveless life. He fills us so much with Himself, that there never remains any need. Trust Him. Love Him with all your heart. He doesn’t fail.

(“”The writer has been a Cover page Model for various fashion magazines , anchored various musical shows for youth Channels and a (short film) filmmaker for Discovery Channel. Currently busy writing her own book””)