Rejection is not a good feeling! Almost everyone has gone through this feeling, atleast once in their lifetime.
Our minds are the stongest battlefields. Many a times, people deal with their own prejudices, and are harsh and unkind towards their own smallest mistakes, and hence reject themselves in their own minds. Its the most common emotional wound that we suffer internally.
(Shash Grewal(Shashwati) is an enlightened writer and composer, who writes love saga of her Lord Jesus and herself.)
Earlier days, rejection was generally confined to relationships, families, jobs and marriages. But today, it has gone a step further, carried forward to a whole new level. The virtual world and vast networking also, makes people quite vulnerable to rejection. Other’s opinions about self, matters more to these kind of people, rather than what they know about themselves. The more people are getting addicted and dependent on social media, more they are allowing it to break their self esteem, and then some go to the extent of self infliction, hurting their emotional wound more, and taking it to the next level. How sad. With so much of social networking, genuine relationships are taking a backseat, no one to guide. Neither is the new generation receptive to guidance, since answers to all their queries are available on social media.
Earlier people use to look for occasions to gather round the tables for chit chats. It had a purpose. Family bonding was top most priority and also that was helping older generation to bond with younger generation and guiding them lovingly on various aspects of life, preparing them with sharing experiences on how to deal with life. Today, so called solutions are available on social networks. Hence newer generations do not welcome experience. So relationships get confined to wishes and congratulations on phones and messages. So finally when the new generation practically faces rejections in various forms, they are not prepared as to how to deal with it. Its a paradox. Fortunately, simple solutions are there……
(Shash Grewal(Shashwati) is a “Scriptural Motivational Writer, who explain’s life’s, common principles, in a very lucid manner so that the younger generation can relate to the solutions, She offers through her writing, to all the problems they face on a daily basis.)
(Being a Sangeet Ratna, Shash Grewal(Shashwati) composes fusions and enlightened music, in praise and worship.)
Just to make you understand this in a more simpler and better way, let me quote a couple of scriptures. In the book of 1 Samuel 17, (verse 20-58), we all know King David, who defeated the philistine giant Goliath with God’s grace. But when he had volunteered to fight the battle that King Saul was fighting along with David’s brothers, everyone saw him as a mere shepherd. Their captive and limited minds did not allow them to see beyond David’s skills as a shepherd. They could not believe the fact, that when such great skilled warriors of Israel were fighting for days encamped at the battleground, against the philistines, how can a shepherd, who is looking after sheep for years and not trained in fighting skills, defeat a giant, seeing whom the warrior’s hearts sank in fear? For them the parameters for victory, were those fighters alone. The Israelites zeroed their victory on the warriors. They forgot, to look upto God, and hence rejected the very thought of David standing up for them to fight. His own brother did not believe in him and accused David of wrong intentions. In that situation, David could have given up on the thought of fighting the giant, with so much of opposition from his own brothers and Israelites, sulked and could have chosen to spend rest of his life as a shepherd only. Fortunately, David did not waste his time feeling rejected. Had he wasted his time and energy in feeling rejected and sulking in depression, the world wouldn’t have known David as a valiant king.
Strangely enough, at times rejection comes from people, whom we expect to stand with us and believe in us. Remember, when people recognise you having qualities of leadership, they will discourage you and reject you. Its got nothing to do with you, rather its fear….in them. Their fears, insecurities and own incompetence will make them reject you.
David’s brothers(trained warriors), had been fighting with king Saul, but defeat of the giant came from an unexpected volunteer, a shepherd, who eventually got crowned king, whom the world knows as Kind David today.
It needs lot of courage to stand on your ground, and believe in what God has put into your heart. As the book 1Thessalonians 5:24 says, “the one who called you is faithful, and He will bring it to pass”. When God puts a dream in your heart, its not your dream alone. Its the One who created you, who puts it in your heart first, because He already sees you in that dream of yours, fulfilled. You are destined to live your dreams, if you believe, and walk close to Him and work “with and in’” His “grace”. Wasting time in listening to people, and their rejections, might not help you into bringing you to fulfilment of your dreams. On the contrary, their negative words, would make you lose focus and get you distracted from your goal.
Do you want that? Or do you want to live your dream in reality?
If the latter, then use your intelligence, and reject negative people’s rejections. People will not make it happen for you, God will. Learn how to cope with negative people’s criticisms and rejections in God’s ways and not overreact and lose track in life. Be wise enough to separate wheat from chaff, and keep company to those who build you and not break you.
Do not get disheartened, or overwhelmed with emotions. Always remember….The book of psalm 92:12 says, “the righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon.”
Trust in “Him” who called you.
“I pray oh Lord! That may my mind not be captive to lies and deceit of the world and its ways. Let me live an abundant life as you have called me to live as a cedar of Lebanon. You are faithful and you will bring all my dreams to fulfilment. You alone are worthy. Give me grace enough everyday to walk in your grace and hear your voice alone”….